I fell back onto my pillow, the air puffing out the side and mixing with my tears. I lay there in the dark wondering if there was enough food in the freezer to see out the week. Wondering if I could ever pull myself out of this mess. Wondering. Wondering.
Feeling grateful there were no children or husband involved, I thought to myself, “there has to be a way out of this mess. I cant be stranded, alone, without any financial, moral or social support. Can life really be this bad?” Really, could life be this bad for me? I drifted off into a restless sleep.
Somewhere in my mind, I drifted into another wavelength of rest, until finally into REM sleep. And there the dream came.
“I dreamt of a farmer, he was tall and nice looking (not classically handsome, just a nice looking gentleman). He was a farmer in the West Country and he understood me. He treated me with absolute respect and dignity. He held me close to him and I snuggled into his embrace. Together we sat on the couch, he knew I was vulnerable, yet he held me. Safe and strong, he held me in respect and dignity”.
According to several sources (including the NHS) an average person sleeping the recommended average of eight hours a day will be asleep for 30-35% of their life. During sleep we average around 4-5 sleep cycles which means that we can have 4-5 dreams a night. Yes, we all dream every night, however we don’t always recall our dreams. Such a pity as we could solve so many more of our problems and live a much healthier life if we did recall them.
On waking after my dream, I felt better. Hey, I even felt it may be time to join a dating site. Maybe even one where farmers go… Where I could meet this man in reality, it was a good feeling. When the time was right, I sat down and looked at the dream more closely with the one person I trusted most and realised my dream wasn’t as it first seemed.
What I found amazed me. Locked in the deep recesses of my mind my consciousness was looking for expression, wanting to provide an answer to an even longer more complex problem than I first thought. I hadn’t dated in over six years, true. The problem ran deeper than that though. And there inside the dream of a farmer understanding and holding me, I unlocked the balance I required, that had been missing since childhood. I felt a blending of my masculine and feminine sides, a feeling of transformation, of completion. A feeling that I was not only ready to truly love myself (and another), but rather to love all life unconditionally. Total and complete unification within myself. I felt my fears and anxieties loosen and release. I felt held, safe and secure. I felt together.
All this I found in looking into one dream. I have a full dream journal to work through and so much more to discover about myself. This isn’t some one trick pony, but a lifetime to still discover and enjoy. I was amazed at how so much of my life, so many of my problems could’ve been resolved sooner had I just looked more deeply into my dreams.
My transformation was powerful, I knew I was amazing. I wrote the dream in my dream journal, taking note of all details, feelings and emotions. Just writing the dream was so cathartic. I felt a sense of peace I hadn’t felt in ages. Despite all my waking fears about finances and feeding myself, this dream… the farmer… his gentleness, stayed in my mind. I held the dream close to me, knowing its meaning was more than just a nudge to join a dating site.
Each dream dreamt is as unique as the individual dreamer. For me, the symbolism of the farmer was more around harvesting and looking after my masculine side, in fact, letting it in to redress the imbalances in my waking life. The farmer holding me and the feeling of safeness of my dream were more inclined to me moving into a more safe phase of life rather than being held by a man or simply joining a dating site.
Spending some valuable time engaging and working with our dreams, unlocks potential that we have never noticed before. Dreams work metaphorically and thus need another “language” to interpret. This particular dream on the surface looked like a nudge to start dating again, but the underlying purpose actually resolved an imbalance between myself, my family, feelings and finances, giving me the courage to trust the flow in life, giving me something I hadn’t known I had before. I am feeling more at peace and able to function in the waking world in a more meaningful way, rather than being obsessed with needing. This in turn led to me feeling more empowered which opened doors that would otherwise have remained firmly shut.
There are so many facets to our lives, taking the first steps by working through your dreams with a qualified Dream Therapist, will unlock more than you have dreamed possible, bringing peace and clarity to allow you to live the life you truly deserve. After all, having found my balance, it’s time to find out who the dream man in my waking life really is… isn’t it?!
Cheryl-lya has been working with dreams all her life and is now available for private sessions and workshops. She holds both skype and in-person sessions, helping people all over the globe. Contact her through her website soulscompass.net or call UK mobile 07527 303 911.
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